Monday, February 13, 2012

Weight Lifting

First off, I want to say that I am just enjoying life right now! A lot of the time I don't know how I am going to make it through the day getting everything done that I need to, but apart from that stress I am doing just fantastically!

I ran across a video that I heard a long time ago in a devotional given by Elder Busche. The full text of the talk can be found here. It's my absolute favorite talk. ever. I've found a lot of comfort in those words during hard times over the past few years.



Ok, now that the serious stuff is over. I was thinking a lot about why I do the things I do. Like go to the gym. I go to the gym every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 3:00PM and lift weights with my buddy Eric. Why do I do this? I think about 10% of the reason I lift weights is to get in better shape. I could always use 2 more inches on my vertical jump or half a second off of my 40 yard time. I could use more arm strength for sports. So, 10% is basically for sports. What is the other 90%?

I want to look good ;)

Thats it. I just want to look good. I want people to look at me and think, "Dang, he's in shape!" Especially girls. I push myself to the limit all the time so that some girl some time might find me attractive. Haha, stupid I know.

But that's why a lot of guys go to the gym, not just me. I think over time that will change and I'll be going to the gym to keep my muscles moving and working right. But for now, I'll stick with this.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Wow, wow

My life has been so great lately!!! And a little crazy. I am a part of a new internet TV show called "Between 2 Arms" that can be seen at our apartment blog here. Basically I'm a star. Or a co-star. With Tyler Crofts. My roommate.


Things have really been changing fast here. Every day I wake up and just wonder if something else is going to happen that rocks my way of life just a little. Without fail, it has. I really don't think much has changed in my own personal life but those I am close to have recently had theirs flipped upside down. Maybe I'm ready for a change too.

A year ago I had a double hernia surgery to repair damage done from lifting weights incorrectly. It was a painful procedure and recovery process. But while I was unconscious my mind was firing like crazy and running so quickly. The nurse attending me as I came out of the anesthetic told me later that I was mumbling about having "figured it out," and had "come up with the formula." Then I asked her repeatedly for a pen a paper until she brought me four small pieces of notepaper and a pen. In my delirious state I filled the pages with the ideas as if they were just running out of my mind onto the paper. Then I fell back unconscious. When I finally came to, the nurse recounted the adventure and gave me the notepaper. To my surprise it was legible and made sense. More than anything though, it was humorous. I put the papers away in a shoebox and didn't get them out again.

Until this semester. My technical writing class requires a self-directed project and paper on the topic of our choice. I decided to dig these pages out a take a look at them again. It really struck me that while unconscious I could come up with a unique idea, and it is unique, and put it on paper. I mean, when does that ever happen?!?! This one had to come from the Big Guy. You know, God? Anyways, it is opening itself up to me and I think this is one of my chances to make an impact and a change in this world. I can't tell you the specifics until I get a little more research done. I don't want to spoil the surprise. Just know that its pretty impressive.




Wow. Boom. Its all the same to me. Happiness. Friends. Attitude is key. Do what you need to do to be successful. Don't look back. Stick to your guns and you'll begin to love the way you live. Don't let others choose your life for you, make those important choices yourself. Don't let people stand in your way, but make your way include stopping by those people that need you. Don't be distracted by the gloom of life when the sun is only rising. The Perfect Day. Ether 12:4. I love everyone that I get to see from day to day. I take the time to try to brighten someone else's day because you took the time to brighten mine. Tonight while I was on duty a girl told me, "Can I tell you something without being creepy? You have a really nice smile." Best feeling ever. You rock!


Friday, February 3, 2012

True Friend Z-Owned!

I am about to explain a concept that took years and years and years of thought, trial, error, practice, snow cones, and re-practice. I call it, "The Two Ladders of Relationships." It was pioneered by Rick Savage, David Millard and myself during our ponderous nights working at a night club called the PM Lounge.

This was prompted by some false doctrine being taught here by Emily or here by Monica. Don't believe what they say. It's understandable that they have limited knowledge of how guys think and the friend zone as created by guys. I admire their attempts though :) I suggest they let me know how far off I am.




Here is how the ladder theory works: In relationships, guys and girls each have two ladders that they put all people on - the Friend Ladder, and the Potential Relationship Ladder. For Girls, the friend ladder tends to be much bigger than the potential relationship ladder. For guys, the potential relationship ladder is much, much bigger than we care to admit. That's being pretty stereotypical though. Depending on how in touch with their emotions and sympathetic the guys are, their friend ladder may be larger than most guys'. Girls that share more unemotional, logic-driven, and other masculine tendencies with guys will notice that their potential relationship ladder is increased as well.

What? You don't like this theory?? Well, let me just say something. To be honest, most guys only enjoy spending time with girls they find attractive. Period. This doesn't mean that relationships are always on their mind, it just means that when girls think they are friend-zoned because guys spend a lot of time "hanging out" with them, its not true. In fact, most guys crave for the understanding that they can just be themselves completely around a girl and feel comfortable. So, the truth is that guys don't friend zone girls very often. At all.

But when they do, there is no going back. Not usually. Unless a girl is friend zoned and then time and space separate them for a while, or a traumatic experience, she gets a free pass to jump ladders if she wants. But mostly, you're stuck. The few, the proud, the friend-zoned. Sorry!

Want to know the quickest way to get friend-zoned by a guy? Tell him that he's like a brother to you. Yes, you have effectively friend-zoned him, but don't under-estimate how quickly he has just shoved you off the potential relationship ladder and let you start climbing back up the friend ladder. That is detrimental for a guy to hear. Detrimental to his potential relationship state of mind.

So now what? Just know that first impressions are important, as they determine which ladder a guy places a girl initially. Don't fret though, the ladders start closely together, it can be easy to jump back and forth between the two, but as time goes on and you climb up the ladders they diverge. You can't just jump across after years of being a "good friend" (potential relationship to a guy) to being his sister.