True Friend Z-Owned!

I am about to explain a concept that took years and years and years of thought, trial, error, practice, snow cones, and re-practice. I call it, "The Two Ladders of Relationships." It was pioneered by Rick Savage, David Millard and myself during our ponderous nights working at a night club called the PM Lounge.

This was prompted by some false doctrine being taught here by Emily or here by Monica. Don't believe what they say. It's understandable that they have limited knowledge of how guys think and the friend zone as created by guys. I admire their attempts though :) I suggest they let me know how far off I am.

Here is how the ladder theory works: In relationships, guys and girls each have two ladders that they put all people on - the Friend Ladder, and the Potential Relationship Ladder. For Girls, the friend ladder tends to be much bigger than the potential relationship ladder. For guys, the potential relationship ladder is much, much bigger than we care to admit. That's being pretty stereotypical though. Depending on how in touch with their emotions and sympathetic the guys are, their friend ladder may be larger than most guys'. Girls that share more unemotional, logic-driven, and other masculine tendencies with guys will notice that their potential relationship ladder is increased as well.

What? You don't like this theory?? Well, let me just say something. To be honest, most guys only enjoy spending time with girls they find attractive. Period. This doesn't mean that relationships are always on their mind, it just means that when girls think they are friend-zoned because guys spend a lot of time "hanging out" with them, its not true. In fact, most guys crave for the understanding that they can just be themselves completely around a girl and feel comfortable. So, the truth is that guys don't friend zone girls very often. At all.

But when they do, there is no going back. Not usually. Unless a girl is friend zoned and then time and space separate them for a while, or a traumatic experience, she gets a free pass to jump ladders if she wants. But mostly, you're stuck. The few, the proud, the friend-zoned. Sorry!

Want to know the quickest way to get friend-zoned by a guy? Tell him that he's like a brother to you. Yes, you have effectively friend-zoned him, but don't under-estimate how quickly he has just shoved you off the potential relationship ladder and let you start climbing back up the friend ladder. That is detrimental for a guy to hear. Detrimental to his potential relationship state of mind.

So now what? Just know that first impressions are important, as they determine which ladder a guy places a girl initially. Don't fret though, the ladders start closely together, it can be easy to jump back and forth between the two, but as time goes on and you climb up the ladders they diverge. You can't just jump across after years of being a "good friend" (potential relationship to a guy) to being his sister.